I have been thinking...why are we women so tough on ourselves? Why can we not be our own best friend?
The thought occurred to me the other day when I was applying my make-up. I leaned in to the mirror for a closer look and didn't like what I saw...wrinkles, blemishes and more wrinkles. When did they become so apparent? Is my over-priced 'miracle' wrinkle cream even working? Ohmigosh, I am going to be 40 years old in May. I quickly finished 'painting the battleship' and went on to other things.
The dialogue continued in my head - it was negative. Why do we as women concentrate on the negative so much? Why are we so critical on ourselves? I thought of the outburst I had with my kids before they left for school. I felt bad for losing my cool and quickly wondered "Am I scarring my kids for life? Are they going to hate me?" Why, out of all the good that I do for my children do I concentrate and focus on these small bad blips on the radar?
Why can we not be our own best friend?
Why don't we comfort ourselves and dwell more on the positive like our best friend would do for us? If I was standing beside my best friend in front of the mirror and she voiced her concerns over her wrinkles the first thing I would do is try to make her feel better. Why can't we give ourselves that kind of support? I have called my best friend after losing it on my kids and she very prophetically 'talks me off the ledge'. She listens, commiserates and then assures me that I am in fact still a good mother. She also 'sees' my freak-out and 'raises' me an unruly conniption fit. That's what friends do.
The next time you are hard on yourself for whatever reason, try and be your own best friend. Get rid of those negative thoughts and concentrate on your positives. Don't needlessly pick on yourself...
Find a new wrinkle? Don't sweat it, there will be more. (Who wants to look like Joan Rivers anyway?) Yelled at the kids until your throat was sore? You won't scar them for life, promise!
No-one is perfect. Love the best friend within you. I assure you - she 'has your back'.